Topic: Rekindling The Fire Of Love In Your Marriage! (2)
Dear Reader,
Welcome to another week with the Holy Spirit. Last week, I began this teaching on how to rekindle the “fire of love” in your marriage. In the course of that teaching, I discussed elaborately on what marriage is all about.
This week, I’ll be examining a key factor that sustains a Christian marriage –Love Responsibility!
It is not enough to be married, it has to be sustained. The love responsibility is the master key in sustaining a fulfilled marriage relationship. Love is the instrument a man uses to make his wife a glorious woman, without spot or wrinkle, or any such thing.
The kind of love that should exist in a Christian marriage should be unconditional. A love that cares when there is no apparent reason to do so. God demonstrated this kind of love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8). In the same vein, God commands all husbands to love their wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her (Ephesians 5:25).
God, through Apostle Paul, issued this commandment to all husbands. It is not an admonition or suggestion, but an instruction that must be obeyed. Your love for each other must be expressed. I read an inscription on a wall some years ago which said, “Love is not love until it is expressed.” This is true! God gave His love expression; therefore, you must do the same.
How can love between husband and wife in particular be expressed? This can be done in thoughts, words and actions. Let’s take it one after the other:
Loving in Thoughts
When your heart is full of loving thoughts, it readily finds expression in the words you speak. God’s Word says: for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh (Matthew 12:34). If a man, for instance, uses abusive words on his wife, he is speaking out of the abundance of his heart. Men initiate things, while women respond to them. Therefore, husband, initiate the love relationship between you and your wife, and she will respond to you. No woman hates to be loved. When you love your wife, you easily win her submission.
Loving in Words
Three short words, which some couples neglect are: “I love you.” Yet, by them, men and women come together to establish God’s counsel on the earth. However, these words are forgotten after the euphoria of the wedding ceremony is over. Words are powerful! Therefore, give voice to your feelings; it is not foolishness! The world was made by faith-filled words. Let your “I love you” to your spouse be full of faith. Wife, don’t nag your husband to death by repeatedly pointing out his shortcomings or problems in your home. Where there’s a need for correction, use the sandwich method –compliment, correct and then, compliment again.
Compliments:
Praise your spouse for doing something well or for something you like about him or her. Everyone loves to be praised; everyone loves nice things to be said about them. Men and women who are not complimented do not feel appreciated. So, when someone outside showers them with the much sought compliment, they are easily taken captive. My husband is never too tired to appreciate and say, “I love you” to me. Each time I hear that from him, I’m excited and on top throughout the day. It works!
However, you need to understand that until you accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, you can’t effectively love your spouse as Christ ordained it. You can do this by saying this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship(John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
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