Topic: How To Improve On Your Marriage! (2)
Calvary greetings to you in the precious name of Jesus Christ! Last week, I shared with you on what your perspective should be about marriage. I also said that marriage is a miracle.
This week, I will be looking at what I have captioned: Marriage Covenant Responsibilities.
The Word of God makes it clear that marriage is a covenant, and this is expounded in my book: Marriage Covenant. What is a Covenant? The dictionary defines it as ‘a binding agreement or a contract’ usually between two people.
The Word of God says: Marriage is honourable (Hebrews 13:4). It goes to say, therefore, that the agreement of marriage between two people is seen as a good thing in the sight of God, which eventually leads to honour and dignity for the parties involved. I want to let you know, therefore, that it is a good thing that you desire marriage, if you are not yet married. For those already married, it is a good step you have taken in life. You shall have no cause to regret it in Jesus’ name.
However, as good as marriage is, there are covenant responsibilities that must be operated, in order for it to produce the desired good. The Word says: If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land (Isaiah 1:19). There is good in marriage, but you must be willing and obedient to operate the covenant.
My husband, Dr. David Oyedepo will always say, “A life without responsibilities is a liability”. Furthermore, he says, “Responsibility is the price for greatness”. Do you desire good in your marriage? Are you longing for peace, harmony and serenity in your marital life? Then apply yourself to the demands of a good home. If you are yet to enact the covenant of marriage, begin to ask for grace to comply with the demands.
What are these Covenant Responsibilities?
FOR THE MAN:
As A Husband, you are the head of the woman, the leader and not a dictator. You are to love your wife unconditionally as a friend and as a lover sexually (Ephesians 5:25-29). You must honour her and not treat her as a lesser being, or a slave (1 Peter 3:7). Much more, you must dwell with her according to knowledge.
As A Father, you have the responsibility of raising your children in the nature and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4, Deuteronomy 6:6-7), not by bullying and beating. Instead, apply the rod of the Word of God, and as you mold them in the fear of the Lord, you are raising godly children, who will in turn call you blessed.
As A Provider: A French proverb says, “A father is a banker provided by nature”. Your primary responsibility is meeting the needs of your home. The woman is only your help meet. Never shift your responsibility to your wife; it is anti-covenant to do so. To shy away from this responsibility makes you worse than an infidel [an unbeliever] (1 Timothy 5:8). This shall not be your portion!
FOR THE WOMAN:
As A Wife, you have the power of influence, while your husband has the power of authority. Thus, you must be a positive influence. Your responsibility, however, as far as God is concerned, is that of submission. Willingly surrender yourself to be ruled by your husband, obeying him in love (Ephesians 5:22-24). Cook and dress to please him (I Peter 3:2). Learn to go to God in prayer, rather than arguing.
As A Mother, train your children spiritually, physically and morally, bringing them up to become arrows in the hands of God. Your role in the life of your children is a non-transferable responsibility. Therefore, don’t push them to another person to train for you.
As A Home Maker, see to the general welfare of the home, plan and manage the resources provided (Titus 2:5). Also see to the welfare of every member of your household. This is your primary assignment, before your career or business.
You need the grace of God to carry out your covenant responsibilities. You need to surrender your life to Christ so that, that grace can be released to you. You can say this prayer and receive that grace: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).