|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
This week, we will be looking at Communicating in Wisdom. Wisdom tells you when to talk and when to keep quiet; what to say and the right time to say it; where to go and at what time, etc. It is possible to say the right thing at the wrong time, thereby, causing a lot of trouble in the home.
Someone came to ask me a question sometime ago. She and her husband got married as Christians, but somehow, they were having many problems with the relatives of the husband. One day, they decided to go and bare their minds to those relatives. By the time they finished their discussion, there was more trouble “on ground” than they could handle. The more they spoke, the more everything seemed to “scatter!”
“What was the problem?” They asked me. I told them that it was their presentation; it was simply done in foolishness. They knew what to say, but said it wrongly; so, they ended up adding salt to an injury!
Knowing how to apply the knowledge of the Word of God is wisdom. It will help you to know how to speak positive and edifying words to your spouse. It will also help you to relate well with your in-laws.
There is no way you can separate a man’s wisdom from the words of his mouth. Just listen to somebody speak for five to ten minutes, and you can easily pick whether he or she is wise or foolish!
A woman shared this testimony:
“Some time in 1990, my husband lost his job and from then, our struggles started. Later, a sister in Christ gave me some money to start a business. Since then, I began to ignore the teachings of the Bishop and his wife on pride, and I no longer respected my husband. I insulted him whenever he talked to me, because I was the one fending for the family. He began to complain of the way I talked to him, saying that there was no sign to show that I was born again, and that I was behaving like one of the worldly women.
Later, I attended the International Women Convention, and watched a mime presentation on the use of the tongue. There, I learnt how to speak correctly to my husband, and regretted the indecent ways I had treated him in the past. On reaching home, I knelt down to greet him and he was surprised, because I had not done that before. There and then, he believed that something good would come out of the convention.
Formerly, whenever he wanted us to have our morning prayers, I would shun and tell him to say his own prayers, and that I would pray whenever it pleased me. But the following morning, I was the one who woke him and the children up for prayers.”
— Omotosho, O.
Let me say that the reason a lot of people get into trouble in their homes, is that they know the right thing to say, but they say it at the wrong time and in the wrong place. So, instead of bringing solutions, it causes more troubles. God’s Word says: A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards (Proverbs 29:11).
Whenever you are faced with a situation that requires wisdom in your home, ever before you take any step, just pray a simple prayer, asking God to give you wisdom to handle the situation, and it shall be given you. God’s Word says: If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him (James 1:5).
The word of prayer may be for just a minute, but you can trust God to send you the wisdom to handle the situation. May be as a man, your wife has said something that has really annoyed you, instead of slapping or abusing her, use wisdom. That is why Proverbs 19:11 says: The discretion of a man differeth his anger and it is his glory to pass over a transgression
Woman, watch your words! One word spoken in wisdom can dissolve any tension building up in your home. Similarly, one word spoken foolishly can destroy the peace in your home. It’s time to apply wisdom to your words; as you do, I know your home will be preserved!
Are you born again? For you to be born again, you need to confess your sins and accept Jesus as Your Lord and Saviour. If you are set for this, please say this prayer of faith: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).