|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
God has made provisions for marriage to produce good for you and I, but we have a responsibility to develop that plan. It is like the negative film of a picture. The photographer must spend time in the darkroom developing the negative and come out with a beautiful picture. A negative must be developed before it becomes enviable. This is the same thing with marriage. You must develop your marriage by doing those little things that you may think don’t really matter.
So far, we have seen the potency of the words that can transform a marriage. This week, God has another powerful secret for us which is, Touching & Giving of Gifts.
This is a very important act. Sometimes, a touch speaks just as much as words. It communicates, “I am in touch with you.” It keeps the fire burning at times, when words are clumsy. When this vital factor is lacking, the couple stays aloof and withdrawn. The atmosphere in the house is usually tense.
A touch communicates warmth. When a husband, for instance, puts his arms around his wife, it brings warmth that neither money nor words can produce. Husband and wife, study to be romantic. Couples are to be “ravished” by each other’s love! God’s Word says: …Be thou ravished always with her love (Proverbs 5:19) “Ravished” means transported by delight. It works!
Husband, there may be times when your wife is down physically. Remember that “love is medicine.” At such times, all you need do is to show a little more love and she’ll be well! Some kind words, a little physical touch, some kisses or a little gift from you as husband to her as a wife! The time she would have spent at the doctor’s office could be used by you to demonstrate your love to her and you wouldn’t need to spend your money on drugs anymore! I’ll never forget an experience I had some years ago.
There was a time when I was really down physically. My husband went out one of those days and came back with a little gift, beautifully wrapped and personally presented to me; to further express his love for me. Could you believe that little act of love from him brought me health and I never needed medication? There’s no woman who hates to be loved.
These are little things, but they have the ability to lift up your marriage. Love is medicine! We love those who are precious and honour them.
God so loved the world that He gave His son! If you claim to love, it must find expression in giving. A thoughtful little gift at the right time can work wonders! You must make it a point of duty to remember special days such as birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, and share the joy of the moment by exchanging gifts. These were the things you did while courting; you shouldn’t let them slip by just because you’re now married.
A gift at the right time to your spouse can enhance your relationship and make it more precious. Remember Elkanah and Hannah? Elkanah was sensitive to the needs of his wife. He had so mastered the art of ministering to Hannah’s emotional needs that he could say to her, …Am not I better to thee than ten sons (I Samuel 1:8). You will not fail in Jesus’ name!
If you are not born again, it will be impossible for you to benefit from what has just been discussed. But if you want to be born again and become a child of God now, you can say this simple prayer with me in faith: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).