|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
I welcome you to this teaching, in the Mighty name of Jesus Christ. Since this month began, we have been exploring various ways of raising children of destiny. I have explained that children are blessings from God. I have taught on the subject of training, and how to understand your teenagers.
This week, I want to teach on Ministering to Problematic Children!
It is important to note that children, like most adults, are often products of their environment. In the same vein, problematic children are products of a problem-filled environment, which the enemy is very fast to take advantage of.
In effectively handling this set of children, you must enhance your understanding by knowing the root causes of their problems. What are these root causes? They are, but are not limited to:
Parents’ Reactions to the Way They Were Brought Up
This is a major concern because some parents tend to use this as the foundation for fostering their children. Perhaps, they forget to realise that all children are not the same, and shouldn’t be handled same way. Until a child is properly understood, he/she cannot be effectively raised and nurtured in the most appropriate manner.
Such parental reactions have a tendency of erecting walls between parents and their children, and may possibly cause lack of respect, inability to speak in confidence to parents, resentment whenever there’s an attempt to discipline the child (even when the child is clearly wrong) and reluctance to receive guidance from them.
Homes Where There Is No Peace And Harmony
It is a known fact that children are products of what they witness, to a great extent, than what they are informed. This is the more reason exposure to violence, ridiculous manners, and discrepancies in their parents’ relationship expose them to unkind certainties without the maturity to handle them.
Often times, lack of adequate attention and affection from parents cause the children to become aggressive, take laws into their hands and eventually become hardened. This is one of the root causes of problematic children that should be deeply looked into, by concerned parents for possible adjustment.
In the long run, some children take advantage of the disarray between their parents, to maneuver circumstances to their benefit. When they discover that it works at home, they’ll try it outside; thus predictably becoming conspirators, cheats and generally, the source of most fights between people.
Wounds of rejection often cause unsteadiness in a child’s personality. Most children feel rejected by parents, who verbally throw abusive words at them, batter and physically or sexually maltreat them. Some are even rejected before they are born. For example, wrong sex preference often after a scan result, when a child comes too soon after the last one, or when there are already many children in the family.
Most of these children, in future, spend their entire life trying to be somebody else as a result of rejection. Most often, it leads to their being double-minded, unsteady and having dual personalities, that is, saints at home and beasts outside the home.
Other reactions to rejection include watching television soap operas (in an attempt to forget hurtful pasts), reading (where the child projects himself into one of the principal characters in the story), going to sleep not wanting to get up in the morning, resorting to drinking alcohol and taking hard drugs. Your children shall not be found in this array of children.
Being born again is the bedrock of effective child raising. To get born again, start by confessing your sins and calling on the Lordship of Jesus over your life. Are you ready for this new birth experience? Then say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).