|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
You are welcome to another segment on Family Success. Throughout this month, I shall be deliberating on the topic: God’s Ultimate Desire for Your Family. First, it is important to know that God is particularly concerned about your marriage and family. He wants to see you have the best of marriage and to enjoy a successful home. He has made everything available for you to experience a successful home. Moreover, it is God’s desire for all His children to have the best on earth, in life and for their marriages to be peaceful, and fulfilling. That includes you! Today, I will be teaching on: Keeping yourself pure.
It is God’s desire that your marriage be kept pure. You must, therefore, ensure that you keep the marriage-bed pure to enjoy the honour in marriage. The Word of God says: Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled… (Hebrews 13:4). The word ‘undefiled’ there simply means kept pure. Whether as singles or married, to enjoy the honour in marriage, you must ensure that you keep the marriage-bed pure. If this was impossible, God won’t tell you to do it. Young men, don’t keep messing around with ladies, thinking that nobody knows. God’s Word says: The eyes of the Lord are in every place beholding the evil and the good (Proverbs 15:13). Don’t take away the honour that God has in store for you in marriage.
Marriage is honourable in all when the bed is undefiled. As singles, if you must enjoy honour in your marriage, you must lay a good foundation for it by keeping yourself pure. Parents, begin to train your children against pre-marital sex. It does not matter whether it is acceptable in the society or not. If you say, “After doing it, God will forgive me”, please note that the scar will be there.
The marriage bed must remain undefiled, because sex is the seal of the marriage covenant. Any sexual relationship engaged in outside marriage breaks the seal and attracts God’s punishment. Therefore, you must never get yourself involved in it. However, if you have already defiled the bed, repent and ask God for forgiveness, then forsake it immediately.
Many people get emotionally distorted when they defile the marriage bed to the extent that it disturbs their marital life. You can save your marriage from torments by keeping your life pure. When you defile the marriage bed, you are behaving like a beast and whatever happens to a beast can happen to you anytime. Therefore, you must make a change in the right direction, in the name of Jesus Christ. The later part of our anchor Scripture says: …but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. The word ‘whore’ simply means harlot. Give no room to the devil if your soul is actually precious to you. Defiling the marriage-bed –whether you are single or married, proves that your soul is not precious to you.
God made man with certain physiological and emotional needs, and marriage provides the best fulfilment for those needs. Physiologically, man needs sex; it is part of his physical nature, and the satisfaction of that urge is permitted only within the parameters of marriage. God honours the physical union of a man and his wife by ensuring that they find fulfilment in each other’s body. This is why He frowns at adultery and fornication. 1 Corinthians 7:2 says: Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. This is not to say that young men and women should rush into marriage for the sole aim of satisfying their sexual urge. That would make them nothing but bedmates. The love and excitement in such a relationship never last, and that is not God’s plan or purpose for marriage. As a single man or lady, you are expected to control your urge until you locate a suitable partner with whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life; then, get legally married. The truth is, if you cannot tame your sexual drive while single, you probably will not be able to exercise control when you are married. Flaunting God’s purpose in this area of marriage can be very costly to your home and destiny. Don’t do it.
Refuse to fall a victim if you truly have value for yourself. Don’t say that you want to earn yourself a living by whoremongering because God will judge those who do that. Stop it! Don’t wait for the fire of God to come upon you; plead for His mercy, call upon Him now that He is ready to hear you, before it’s too late. The Word of God says: I beseech you therefore brethren by the mercies of God that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God which is your reasonable service (Romans 12:1). In order words, the presentation of your body unto the Almighty God as a living sacrifice is your reasonable service unto God. Any service done unto God without your body being a living sacrifice is not acceptable. It does not matter what you do and the volume of money you give in church every day, if your body is not kept pure, that service is not acceptable unto God. Whether single or married, illicit sexual affairs render your service to God “unrewardable” and will deprive you of enjoying the honour He has destined for you in marriage. God is much more interested in your person than your money or what you can do. When your person is acceptable unto God, then your service will become acceptable.
Honour in marriage is your heritage in Christ. You need to take it by force by stopping every form of harlotry in your life. Receive grace to practise the Word of God so that you can truly enjoy the honour destined for you in marriage in Jesus’ name!
If you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).