|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
You are welcome to another wonderful time in God’s presence. Throughout this month, we shall be exploring the topic: ‘Enjoying Marital Harmony’.
The Bible says: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24). This is God speaking and He is the Author of “the family”. The excerpt “…They shall be one flesh” from the above scripture is not talking about the physical joining of a man and a woman. No! Rather, it is referring to the harmony, agreement and unity in marriage. Furthermore, it is important to know that in securing marital harmony –no matter the culture, the Word of God is universal and it works anywhere.
There are many married couples today, who shed tears because of their experiences in marriage. I pray that whatever tears you have shed in the past, as you go through this article today, God will wipe them all away!
The issue of marital harmony is of utmost importance because it is not just about you as an individual, but the entire church of Jesus Christ since it is made up of families. In other words, harmony in the family unit will affect the body of Christ in a large way because every nation on planet earth is made up of families.
Understanding the Family Unit
The word “family” in the Longman’s Dictionary of contemporary English means: a group of people who are closely related to each other, especially mother, father and their children, representing the nuclear family. There is also the extended family setup, which include aunts, uncles, grandparents, distant relatives, etc.
I want you to know that everyone on earth –male or female, married or single, no matter the status, belongs to a specific family. God sent you to this world through that family for a purpose and you will fulfill that purpose in Jesus’ name!
Many families and homes today, both in the church and in the world are going through tension and disharmony, and this has resulted in separation, divorce, abuse of all kinds, frustration, infidelity and the likes.
The Bible says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3).
The foundation for securing marital harmony is your personal relationship with God, because He is the Author of marriage and the Founder of the family. Thus, your relationship with the Almighty Father is the starting point to experiencing marital harmony.
Moreover, God is the only source of true and lasting relationship. When you allow Him into the ship of your marriage, it will never sink. As singles, I want you to know that it is the will and intention of God for you to enjoy a sweet home; but, your true and lasting satisfaction, joy and fulfilment in life are rooted in your relationship with the Almighty God. A good understanding of this will help you to walk through life with confidence.
In addition, I want you to know that your spouse is not your source of joy: rather, God is the only true source of joy. This truth will enable you to walk by the Word of God to secure marital harmony. For instance, when you understand that God is the only source of joy, happiness and contentment in the family, you will know that changing spouse like clothes is not the solution to the contentment issues in your family. Looking for the latest models in town will never bring you contentment. God is the ONLY true source!
Your problem today may be: Oh! My husband is not good; I will look for another one. My wife is not good; I will get a better one. Or maybe you are contemplating divorce right now. I pray that as you are reading this material today, the light of God will come on you and dignity will be restored to your marriage in Jesus’ name! Therefore, stop that divorce plan; that is not the solution. It is your relationship with God that makes all the difference and you will make progress in your family life. Whatever has caused you heartache and tears before, your relationship with God will cause a change and you shall have harmony in your family in Jesus’ name!
Also, know that marital harmony is possible but it is not a gift; rather, it is a responsibility. As such, you must accept the responsibility of securing marital harmony in your home. Bishop David Oyedepo, whom I am privilege to be married to, said, “Faith that makes God absolutely responsible for the events of your life is an irresponsible faith”. In other words, you have a part to play!
In conclusion, remember that God is the only true source of joy and harmony in your home, thus, until you allow Him into your life, you cannot enjoy harmony in your home. Why not have a relationship with God today by accepting Him as your Saviour and Lord. That is what being born again is all about. If you want to be born again, please say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).