|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
I am sure that you have been receiving some helpful truths on how to get your spouse saved. Continuous practice of what you have received will further guarantee a quick testimony for you in Jesus’ name!
This week, I shall be teaching on one virtue that is very helpful in getting your spouse saved. It is one virtue that looks so insignificant that many believers find very hard to use. This virtue is PATIENCE.
“Patience” is a human ability to accept delay, annoyance or suffering without complaining. It is also the ability to keep doing something that requires a lot of effort. Patience is a must, when it comes to the salvation of your spouse.
Many, who are faced with the challenges of being married to their unsaved spouses, always seek quick ways of quitting their marriage. Rather than staying in the marriage to work out the challenges, they opt for ways to put an end to their marriage. If this is the situation with you, I would like you to know that this is not the solution.
Praying, fasting and living a Christian life that speaks will demand your patience as your unsaved spouse may try to frustrate your efforts by constantly doing things that may upset you or that are against your Christian faith. Your unsaved spouse’s contrary actions to what you are praying for, is not of his or her will. Remember, he or she has not seen the light and can be considered one who has been blinded. Also, he/she is still under the influence of the prince of this world (2 Corinthians 4:4).
Patience, while praying, fasting and living a life that speaks is needful most times, especially when a miracle does not happen the way you expect it to. Hebrews 10:35-36 says: Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward. For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.
Remember that when you too were unsaved, you may have done worse things in foolishness, but God still found joy in accepting you as His child. He forgave you and redeemed you so that you could do the same, especially towards your unsaved spouse.
It may take some time for him or her to come around to accept Jesus with you, but patience will help you not to give up just too quickly. Your faith will be tried as written in James 1:3-4 which says: Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. When your patience is in place, you will always find yourself strengthened instead of fainting at such times. Learn to exercise more patience with your spouse, who is an unbeliever. Do not see him or her as the person responsible for all those negative actions; rather, see the devil as the sole culprit and address the situation as such when you are before the Lord.
Instead of talking back, nagging, shouting, insulting or giving in all together, remember that it is the voice of the devil that is controlling your spouse and not him/herself. When you see it this way, you will seek ways to protect your unsaved spouse and direct your anger back at the devil accordingly. All the testimonies that you have read since this teaching began, had the working of patience attached to them. The people involved, carefully and patiently acted on the Word of God that they had received.
Here is another testimony that will further build your faith: “I give thanks to God for quelling the war in my home between my husband and I. I kept praying for God to touch my husband’s heart, so that we could both be attending church services together. I remembered God’s Word, believed it and kept appropriating it to myself.
On Tuesday, when another fight was to start, I left the house for my mother’s house. On returning home in the evening, my husband said that he wanted to talk with me. Then, he said that he wanted to give his life to Christ. This morning, to the glory of God, my husband is here in church with me”.
The act of being patient can only be easy when God becomes your stronghold. It is quiet impossible to be patient by your own power and might. This is because it is holding on to God that will give you an access to that power. However, if you have not yet accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour, you cannot become a child of God, neither can you access that power. If you will like to accept Jesus Christ now, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).