|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
You are welcome this week to another exciting time in the presence of the Lord. Last week, I unveiled a trade secret that secures a better understanding of one’s spouse in enjoying a remarkable marriage on the earth.
This week, I shall be sharing with you another secret, and it is what I titled: Your Responsibility! The way to a remarkable order of marriage is by accepting your responsibility.
The man is the principal actor in every home and marriage. Until the husband accepts his responsibility as head, there can be nothing like a remarkable marriage. I am not only referring to men who are married to Christian wives, but also to those who are married to unbelieving one, who probably got married before they got born again.
God’s Word says: But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (I Timothy 5:8). The responsibility of providing for the home is the man’s. It must be accepted joyfully, and executed excitedly. It is the man’s responsibility to be involved in his wife’s affairs. For instance, if you notice that your wife is downcast, you should ask her what the matter is. You must not open up your home to malice or discord. You can prevail over them all by knowledge.
We’ve seen husbands/wives who are separated, and have confessed that their marriages failed because their husbands/wives were irresponsible. God expects you, as a wife, to be in total subjection to your husband in everything, just as the church is subject to Christ in everything. It is your number one responsibility.
I saw from 1 Peter 3:1 that a woman does not need words to win her unsaved husband to Christ. Her actions can perform the miracle. Perhaps that is why satan always moves her to talk uncontrollably, even though she wasn’t created a talkative.
Understanding your obligation/responsibility in marriage makes it easier to go by. Responsibilities in marriage, for both the husband and the wife must be clearly understood, not to be assumed. The Bible even tells us that sin is not imputed when there is no law (Romans 5:13). Therefore, responsibility should be agreed upon, in order to streamline who does what. Let responsibility in marriage not be a chore but a joy, because it is an expression of love. It has that sense of ownership, where both spouse now feel, “I have a family to take care of.”
Couples should know their individual roles in the family, and work towards achieving them to the best of their interest. This is evidently to make peace reign in the home. Important decisions must be made together, even daily. Although, it is fine if the husband or the wife confides in the other’s actions as to allow decisions to be taken single-handedly; but it is wisdom to know that all serious matters should be considered together and agreed upon.
Responsibility, in other words, is key to a successful marriage because it is a result of love. It takes being born again to truly comprehend and understand your responsibility for a heaven-on-earth marriage. If you are not yet born again and you would like to, please pray this simple prayer of faith: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).