|Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo|
Relationship means: “To connect with someone else or to be in touch with someone”. What exists between God the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit is a powerful supernatural relationship. That force is so potent that it resulted in the entire creation; it is so powerful that it could silence war that Lucifer master-minded in heaven. God’s Word says: How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had shut them up? (Deuteronomy 32:30).
So far, we have seen why God wants us to be involved in a relationship and how to build a strong relationship with God. This week, I will be sharing with you on the Secrets to an intimate relationship with your spouse.
This force in relationship was what God wanted to give man when He said in Genesis 2:18: …It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
In other words, God is saying, “Man will need relationships, so let Me institute marriage so that he can enjoy the power of relationship”. God wanted it to be for man “as it is in heaven” (Matthew 6:10). So, He gave man the gift of relationship. That means two things: God believes in relationships and they are important to Him.
The following secrets when put into practice will enhance your relationship with your spouse.
- Mutual trust: It builds a sense of security for both spouses. Know that your spouse won’t plan your hurt. Though you might unintentionally cause hurt, you won’t hurt one another on purpose.
- Tenderness: This includes gentle expressions of care. Through touch, you can express your love to your partner. Affectionate contact is absolutely essential in building the emotion of love.
- Acceptance: It is an unconditional approval in a relationship. No one is perfect, but acceptance means not holding weaknesses against one another. If you find yourself frequently pointing out your spouse’s faults, work on focusing on the qualities you fell in love with, instead.
- Open communication: This is the ability to discuss anything with your spouse. It includes sincere expression of thoughts and feelings, as well as careful listening.
- Caring: This is a genuine concern for your spouse’s well-being. You can develop a more caring heart and mind, by learning to think of your spouse’s feelings before your own. Always ask yourself before acting or speaking, “If I do or say this, will it hurt my spouse?”
- Apologies: These are the remedy for mistakes that spouses inevitably make. Recognising mistakes, taking responsibility for them, expressing remorse for any hurt caused, and making a commitment to change the hurtful behaviour, are all essential to mending the relationship after a mistake.
- Forgiveness: This is the process of letting go of anger, desire for revenge and obsessive thinking about times your spouse has hurt you. It includes giving your spouse permission to have weaknesses, make mistakes and change. Seeing the goodness and strengths of your spouse along with the weaknesses, can open up emotional space for good will to build toward your spouse.
The grace to maintain an intimate relationship with your spouse is available when you surrender your life to Christ. This is by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. That I what being born again is all about. If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).